Just Let It (For the over thinker and control freak)

“If it comes, let it; If it goes, let it.”

I absolutely love this quote and I’ve adopted it as a new mantra. It will definitely be added to my many mirror post it notes. One thing life has taught me is that things will be. How you handle the “be” makes all the difference. The most difficult part of growth for me has been the realization that I can’t control everything. And I know you may be reading and thinking “duh Tiff”, unless you have also had control issues. If so, hey friend ! I am actively working towards being ok with allowing things to simply be and here is what’s been helping along the way:

1. Everything is an experience: Every adventure, each person, each change is all a part of your experience. Letting go of things can seem much more difficult then allowing them to come, but most things are only meant to be for a moment. That job was meant to help build you for your career. The man you stopped dating was to show you exactly what love could be even if not with him. Challenge yourself to go through life simply experiencing people and things and not trying to hold on to them or stake claim because not everything belongs to you, some things are only for a moment.

2. You are driving yourself nuts: Allow me to not be politically correct for a moment when I say, we are often responsible for driving ourselves crazy. Overthinking everything. And I do mean everything. This one requires daily effort for me, because your girl is most definitely an overthinker. It can be extremely difficult for an overthinker to just let things be. The constant internal questioning of what if this happens or what if it doesn’t and trying to understand how it may happen. BREATHE sis ! It is going to happen or not happen regardless. Spend more time focusing on how to deal with the outcome. I promise that time spent will be less stressful.

3. What am I supposed to learn? : If we are not learning from our experiences we are not growing. I’ve learned the importance of humbling myself and stretching myself in a way that I concentrate on what I am supposed to learn from a difficult situation. What am I supposed to gain from this ? How can this help me become a better me? Focusing on the lesson has helped me with the “let go” part. No need for closure, just a need to understand the lesson.

So here’s to taking the steps towards not overthinking everything. Here’s to not allowing things to stay around longer than they should out of fear. Here’s to living and experiencing and enjoying every moment of it !

As always thanks for reading and keep growing !