The Not so Happy Holidays (for the single mama)

Single mama,

I know the holidays aren’t always exactly happy. They can look like a lot of second guessing and hoping that all the effort is enough. Are you creating enough fun traditions and memories? Were you able to get enough gifts? Will you get enough time on Christmas day with splitting the holiday?

You spent the year, admiring all the new things your children have fallen in love with and finding a way to put those into the perfect gifts. You faced long lines or at least a long time on Amazon. You were up, building toys, installing batteries and figuring out the order of gift opening for Christmas day. All fueled by the anticipation of hearing the loud gasps of excitement and seeing those amazing smiles.

Just in case no one took the time to let you know or even if you haven’t found time to tell yourself, you did amazing! You can finally take a deep breath and take pride in making it happen. Whatever “making it happen” looked like this year. If this year, gifts were not plenty but quality time was, be proud. If this year, you were able to start something new like matching pajamas, be proud. If this year, you were able to be mature about splitting the holiday with your ex, sis you most definitely better be proud. You have conquered the holidays this year, after divorce and/or as a single parent. I am so proud of you. Proud of us.

-Tiffini