Don’t Be So Easy

My prayer is that I am never again so easy; that we are never again too easy. More times then I want to admit, I have allowed others to get things from me with limited effort. Giving all of me for not even part of them in return. Taking advantage of me, but with my permission. I have allowed myself to be too easy in relationships, friendships and even familyships (I know that’s not a thing). This week I wanted to highlight some of the ways in which we may have been too easy but more importantly how we can stop ourselves from ever doing it again.

Too Easy to Impress

The last guy didn’t have a car; but this one does. The last guy didn’t have his own place but this one does. The last guy didn’t go to church but this one is at least there on Easter and Mother’s Day. Better than the last so they are a catch right? Absolutely not! They are presenting the absolute bare minimum and because we entertained less than what we deserved, almost anything better looks amazing. But don’t be so easy to impress. Let’s learn to make our expectations known from the beginning and not be overly impressed with the small things like flowers, cuz sis you are worth the flowers and more.

Too Easy to Access

There is never a time a friend can text or call you, that you don’t respond right away. You clear your schedule for others without question. You’re too accessible sis. Those deserving of access to you, are those that offer the same and show how much they value your time. As I age, I am learning just how important time is and how much, I cannot afford to waste it. Let’s learn that we are not required to respond to every text or call right away because the reality is those close to us can function without us if necessary.

Too Easy to Choose Them Over You

As a woman, it seems imbedded in our DNA to put others first. The maternal and nurturing instinct automatically makes us feel it is necessary to care for everyone else first, even if it means never getting around to caring for us. You are the most important. And moms, I know you are side eyeing me right now but hear me out. There is absolutely no way to pour anything from an empty cup. Let’s learn to choose us. To give us, exactly what we give others.

Too easy to Manipulate

So, I’m not sure if you’ve noticed but audacity has been on sale lately, or maybe someone is giving it out. It is almost surprising how people have tried to manipulate situations and believed they would be able to get away with it. It is even more surprising, that sometimes they did. Let’s learn to see people for exactly who they are. My favorite poet said “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time”. A person can only manipulate you if you are looking past or denying who they are. Let’s learn to call those things out, set healthy boundaries and open the door for those who choose not to follow them.

Too Easy to Forget

Ok, so this is the petty one. Sis, leave every situation being absolutely unforgettable. Every relationship, every job, every room. Make them remember. Let’s learn to never be too easy to forget because we are always making a statement; sometimes without words.

The absolute best thing about growth is being able to look back at exactly where you came from. Laughing at some of the mistakes you’ve made but understanding how necessary they were to grow. We have all been too easy in one way or another, but here’s to committing to never being so easy again.